Research suggests that when clients articulate the value they see in your services, it strengthens their commitment and makes referrals more natural.

Building strong, trusting relationships with your clients is the key to earning referrals and growing your business.

One powerful way to achieve this is through what I call the Value Discussion. I’ve been teaching this simple yet effective strategy for over 30 years. It involves asking your prospects and clients to speak out loud about the value they experience in your meetings, processes, and overall relationship with you.

Recent neuroscience findings offer compelling evidence for why this technique works so well.

What Is a Value Discussion?

A Value Discussion is an open-ended conversation where you invite your prospects and clients to share honest feedback about what’s working and what isn’t in your relationship. During these discussions, you ask targeted questions that help clients reflect on their experiences, such as:

• “What aspects of our meetings are most valuable to you?”
• “How would you prioritize what we discussed today?”
• “How does our relationship compare to your expectations?”

By opening the floor for such dialogue, you create an environment of trust and transparency. Your clients feel heard and appreciated, which not only strengthens your relationship but also increases the likelihood they’ll refer you to others.

The Neuroscience Behind Talking Out Loud

Research in neuroscience has shown that speaking out loud about our thoughts and feelings isn’t just a way to communicate—it also helps clarify our thinking. When clients verbalize what they value, several brain processes are at work:

Enhanced Memory and Clarity:
Neuroscience research shows that explaining ideas out loud reinforces memory and deepens understanding . When clients articulate their thoughts, they often recall details more vividly and connect ideas in new ways. This process is similar to the well-known “thinking aloud” technique used in classrooms to help students learn complex subjects.

Engagement of Social Brain Regions:
During a conversation, not only are language areas of the brain activated, but regions involved in social processing are also engaged. These areas, including parts of the prefrontal cortex and the mirror neuron system, help individuals understand and empathize with others. This means that when your clients discuss their experiences with you, they are not just reflecting on the service—they are also processing the emotional connection they have with you. This emotional engagement makes the value they perceive even more significant.

Feedback Loops:
Talking things out creates a natural feedback loop. When clients share their thoughts, they receive immediate verbal or non-verbal feedback from you. This interaction can reinforce positive experiences and address any concerns before they become bigger issues. The brain’s reward system responds to this positive social feedback, which helps in reinforcing trust and loyalty.

External dialogue eventually becomes internalized as inner speech. This reinforces your value and helps your clients talk about you to others.

Why Value Discussions Lead to More Referrals

Referrals are more likely to come from clients who are truly engaged. Research has found that while many clients may be generally satisfied, only a small percentage actively refer others.

However, clients who participate in value discussions are actively encouraged to evaluate and articulate the benefits they receive, therefore, they tend to be far more engaged. They see the relationship as a two-way street, where open communication is valued over silent satisfaction.

When clients are engaged, they are not just passive recipients of your service; they become active partners in the relationship. This partnership creates a sense of ownership and loyalty. They understand the unique value you bring to the table and, because they have articulated this value themselves, they are more likely to share it with their friends, family, and professional networks.

Practical Applications for Financial Advisors

So, how can you apply these neuroscience insights to your practice? Here are some practical tips:

Set the Stage Early:
Let your prospects and new clients know that regular Value Discussions will be part of your process. This helps manage expectations and ensures that when the time comes, they are not caught off guard—perhaps even prepared. .

Incorporate Value Discussions Into Every Meeting:
Build these discussions into your regular meeting agenda. By consistently checking in with your clients, you reinforce the idea that you care about their experience and are committed to continuous improvement.

Use Clear, Open-Ended Questions:
Ask questions that encourage detailed responses rather than simple yes/no answers. Invite thoughtful reflection with questions like, “What stands out as the most important part of this meeting?” or “Is there anything we could do differently to better meet your expectations of working together?”

Listen Actively and Follow Up:
When a client provides feedback, show that you value their opinion. Acknowledge their comments and, if needed, take specific actions to address any issues. This active listening and follow-up can strengthen your relationship and increase your chances of earning referrals.

Leverage Positive Feedback:
When clients express what they value, it reinforces your confidence and helps you see your service through their eyes. This validation boosts your confidence and makes it easier to naturally transition into encouraging or asking for introductions. Often, when a client is excited about the value they receive, referrals follow naturally – sometimes even on the spot.

Bringing It All Together

The Value Discussion is a powerful tool that aligns perfectly with how our brains work. By encouraging your prospects and clients to articulate their experiences, you not only gain insights into their needs and preferences but also activate neurological processes that enhance memory, engagement, and clarity. This leads to stronger relationships and, ultimately, more word of mouth, referrals, and introductions.

As a financial advisor, you know that trust is the foundation of any successful client relationship. By regularly engaging in Value Discussions, you create a framework where trust is built and reinforced over time. Your clients feel valued, heard, and understood—and when people feel that way, they naturally want to share their positive experiences with others.

In a world where introductions can make all the difference, incorporating the simple yet profound act of talking out loud about value is a strategy that is backed not just by practical experience, but also by solid neuroscience. Embrace the Value Discussion, and watch as your client relationships—and your business—grow stronger every day.

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