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1 Critical Strategy to Get a Business Meeting from a Social Meeting

by Bill Cates
How to Turn a Social Meeting into a Business Relationship

How to avoid the “friend zone” during a social meeting with a prospect


Question from a Referral Minute Subscriber…

“You suggest to meet the prospect/new referral at lunch or on the golf course, etc. How do you convert that to a business relationship and not get stuck in the friend zone?”


Referral Source Present at the Social Meeting


When meeting a referral prospect in a social way for the first time, it’s preferable to have the referral source present – to make the “formal” introduction, say a few nice things about you, and help keep the initial conversation going.


And while this is ideal, getting 3-4 people to coordinate schedules is not always easy, and you want to be careful not to lose the momentum of the referral.


Most of the time, this social meeting is just that – purely social. You get the chance to engage with the prospect on a social level first and at the end of the encounter you can either arrange the “business meeting” or at least gain agreement to send the prospect an email to set it up. Whenever possible, get agreement to this meeting in the presence of the referral source. When the prospect makes the commitment to the next step in front of the referral source, they are much more likely to follow through.

Referral Source NOT Present at the Social Meeting


If the referral source is not present, you may very well have some opportunity to talk about the prospect’s situation related to the work that you do. The more you learn about the prospect from both your referral source (warm research) and the internet (cold research), the more meaningful and interesting your conversation will be.


Unless the prospect takes you down the path of a full-fledged business conversation, this social encounter should be mostly social – 70-90%.



The 1 Critical Strategy – “Set the Frame”


Your success in turning this social meeting into the next step, i.e., a business meeting, is all about the expectations you establish… even before you meet.   Some people call this “Setting the Frame.”


Be it your client or you – as this first “ social meeting ” is being scheduled – be sure to the prospect knows that the purpose of this first encounter is just to get to know each other a bit, before you set up a time to sit down and discuss business.


Your Client Might Say: “George, I think the best way for me to introduce you to Bill is on the golf course. He’s a good golfer and fun to play with. You’ll get a sense of who he is, and vice versa. This way, when you sit down to talk business, you’ll have already established a good level of trust.”


Or You Might Say: “George, Amy wanted to introduce you to me over lunch, thinking it would be a great way for us to just to get to know each other a little before we sit down and talk business. Amy suggested that rather than waiting for all three of us to match up our calendars, that you and I go ahead and meet. Lunch is on me! From there, we can schedule a meeting to explore your situation further and see if I just might be a valuable resource for you. How does that sound?”


For someone to feel comfortable becoming your client, they have to like you and trust you… to feel good about who you are over and above your value proposition. One of the easiest ways to make this happen is to make your first meeting social in nature.


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